38. What a happy parent looks like
Putting a child’s needs first may be important, but it’s also crucial that their parent or guardian is happy too. According to Bob Murray, Ph.D., author of Raising an Optimistic Child: A Proven Plan for Depression-Proofing Young Children – for Life, kids with happier parents are more likely to be content themselves. By contrast, youngsters with parents who are depressed are twice as likely to struggle with depression.
37. What a positive parenting relationship looks like
Children take in everything around them – and that includes relationships. As Bob Murray explained, a child’s happiness can come from seeing a “really good, committed relationship,” in their parents. And as David Code, who wrote To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First, told blogger Daniel Wong, “Families centered on children create anxious, exhausted parents and demanding, entitled children. We parents today are too quick to sacrifice our lives and marriages for our kids.”
36. Why it’s their efforts rather than their results that matter
Parents are advised to be cautious when it comes to giving praise to their children. Simply applauding their looks and skills can result in them feeling like that’s the only way to gain favor with others. Instead, parents are encouraged to teach kids that it’s effort that matters more than outcome. “Praise the creativity, the hard work, the persistence, that goes into achieving, more than the achievement itself,” Murray explained to Parents.